In our culture, we were taught not to judge parents or families.
It’s a taboo or perceived as “disloyal” / “disgraceful” if you talk bad behind families. This make people who were abused in dysfunctional family feel afraid to share the dirty secrets because they know it’s difficult to find people to understand them.
And if those child grow up in dysfunctional family, since they don’t have enough exposure, guidelines or models, they were actually brainwashed and thought this is what supposed a family meant to be. They don’t have the knowledge / wisdom to clarify what is normal.
What do you think?