This is a common defense mechanism, abusers pay lots of efforts to observe, destroy things that important to victims.
In such, they can manipulate victims – a strong message deliver that if targets don’t follow orders, they never can enjoy what they love and treasure.
When I was young, my abusive dad used to damage and destroy things that I care. I was so sad, miserable and can’t figure out why parent would do this to their kids if they love them.
Nowadays, I know this is an act of manipulation and show off their power.
And you? have you experienced similar things?