I know this term very well, and guess it’s very familiar to abused survivor.
In toxic / abusive family, family members love to use this skill to trap the victims. Reasons why many survivors struggling a lot in healing because they are not only dealing with the abuse, but also the guilt and shame within.
As a human, we born to feel guilty for doing bad things, or treat others badly especially if they are our blood-related family members. We were raged for the abuse but at the same time abusers will use “guilt” to fool us, lead us to think this is our fault for not forgiving or “moving on” etc.
That’s why it’s takes lots of time and energy for any healing journey.