About Me


I’m a family scapegoat who survived from dysfunctional / toxic family, raised by abusive / narcissistic father and experienced childhood abuse : sexually, emotionally and psychologically.


It took me YEARS to figure out what happened to me and the so-called family.  I was so confused – didn’t know what to do and how to get help for myself.


Though I eventually survive but carry many unspeakable pain / hurt. People see me as a normal introvert but deep down I have many invisible emotional / psychological scars that need to be addressed and healed.


Not mentioning dealing all the side-effects : such as self-doubts, shame and guilty during the healing journey.   


So frustrated and fed up with all taboos and misconception from society.  At the end the healing journey is so lonely and rough.  I understand the challenges of adult survivors for childhood abuse and those who grew up from dysfunctional families.  

This is a platform for adult survivors, or anyone who cares about unspeakable topics : child abuse, sexual, emotional, psychological  abuses.  We can learn, empower and support each other with love, wisdom and courage.


Let’s join hands to raise awareness of childhood, sexual, psychological and emotional abuses.  Help to break taboos of toxic families/parents so no more dirty secrets.

8 thoughts on “About Me”

  1. Thank you so much for what you do. I expereinced many of the same experiences you idd. I too had so many wall up and couldnt accept what she was doing. I always knew she hated ,me. She treated me different thatn my brother and sister. I knew and so did they. But they stood quiet and allowed the abuse to continue. I was a big time codependent. I idnt get out of the situation fully until I ws 40yrs old. This was only because Iwas empty. I had nothing else to give I was emotionless and just done. So she just left me in the utter to die. My worst fear had come true . That was being alone. But actually being alone and still in my thoughts instead of fighting for survival was essential to my health at that itime. I took control of my life after much hard work witha therapist. I just want you to know that it gets better. I am so sorry that happened to you. I am sure you know it was not your fault. Take care and God Bless. Good luck on your journey.

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    1. Thanks so much for your lovely comments. glad to see you are getting help and sure we are not alone. come join us on my facebook page. i am more active over there nowadays. or are you one of the fans already? Take care. don’t need to speak too much since I know how you feel based on our similar backgrounds


  2. Excellent, insightful and helpful, thank you for supporting Scapegoats and appreciate your work to reduce the shame and victim blaming abuse of scapegoat children.

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    1. Sorry to hear about your struggle. join me on FB since i am not quite active on wordpress nowadays. Instead FB page has more updates. You will find that you are not alone as we have many people going through similar things like you.

      Thanks for your message. this exactly why i need to set this whole thing up at the beginning. Have a great weekend.

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