Psychology # 63 : Locus of Control

When someone was being abused for longer period of time, they may believe or trapped by this way of thinking.

 

They may think there’s no hope and they can never turn the table upside down, in such, they behave passive, helpless and conform to the toxic relationship / abuse.

 

Other victims may fight back because their lives are controlled on their own hands, they make a choice to leave the toxic relationship / abuse, learn and motivated to strive.

 

There’s a saying ” if you think you can, you can; if you think you can’t you can’t, both are true!”

 

Which type are you?

Psychology # 56 : Stockholm Syndrome

This explains why some of the victims stay with their abusers.

 

When we were abused, we need to adjust our mindset, attitude and behaviors in order to survive in the toxic environment.

 

Sooner or later, we forget who we are or what we are capable of, which ends up may become support to abusers.

 

That’s sad and tragic.  Abuse is a complicated issue and difficult to be explained straight forward.

 

What do you think? do you believe victims will be brainwashed and become obedient to the abusers after a long history of abuse?

 

 

Psychology # 55 : Adult Children

Many abuse survivor become “Adult Children” though they stop into adulthood.  It’s kind of like an adult look outside but there’s a child live within.

 

I’m very conscious about this symptoms and try my best to heal my inner child. But from time to time I still struggle with destructive behavior and act like a child, emotionally and psychologically.

 

The healing journey is long but as long as we keep moving forward, we will be fine.

 

What do you think?

Quote 193 – Signs You Grew Up With A Toxic Parent 7

Your inner voice is incredibly critical – children of toxic parents often have a severe deficit in self-esteem and self-worth.