Your accomplishments are ignored, minimized or even criticized. Unless your talents make the narcissist look good.
The scapegoat is likely develop feelings of intense psychological distress, perform well below his / her best academically and later, encounter serious problems with social interaction.
Difficulty making and keeping relationships.
Pressure on you to make narcissistic family look good to outsiders. Rejection or abandonment if you do not.
The scapegoat will come to internalize, i.e. believe to be true, his / her family’s view of him / her.
Abuser may say something very upsetting to the victim and after seeing her reaction add, “it was just a joke”.
Abuse is not OK in any form. Jokes that hurt are abusive.
Having and overwhelming need for external validation.
Ongoing scapegoating, criticism, attacks, blaming, shaming or shunning are used as a threat or weapon by the narcissist and their allies, if they don’t get their way.
In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s the talking about them that is forbidden.
Doubting your self-worth, believing you are bad or defective.