Psychology # 61 : Reaction Formation

We human afraid of being rejected or any uncomfortable feelings.

 

In order to save face and pretend nothing is happen, to protect our self-ego, we may act like nothing is happening and everything is fine.

 

That’s sad because if we don’t admit there’s a problem, we can never heal.

 

Do you recognize this symptoms from anyone you know?

Quote 116 – Signs of Narcissistic Parent 15

Reacted to any form of criticism in an extreme way.

Narcissistic parent would scream at you and likely physically hurt you through smacking or some other method.

Psychology # 21 : Favoritism

 

 

This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.

 

According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.

 

Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person.  Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.

 

And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.

Quote 179 – Toxic family members

In toxic family, when targeted child speaks up or confront the abuse, other family members will join together to attack the abused child, protect narcissistic parent blindly and pretend everything is fine.