Quote 74 : Verbal Abuse

Abuser may say something very upsetting to the victim and after seeing her reaction add, “it was just a joke”.

Abuse is not OK in any form.  Jokes that hurt are abusive.

Quote 94 – Narcissistic Family System 7

Ongoing scapegoating, criticism, attacks, blaming, shaming or shunning are used as a threat or weapon by the narcissist and their allies, if they don’t get their way.

Quote 93 – Narcissistic Family System 6

In narcissistic family system, poor family boundaries are norm.  Intrusiveness, mistreatment, abuse is normalized.

Quote 127 – dysfunctional family scapegoat 6

If the scapegoat becomes too insistent about expressing his / her point of view.

The rest of the family may cut him / her off from it entirely, thus totally isolating him / her.

Quote 176 -Types of Emotional Child Abuse 16

Inappropriate control – parents exercise overcontrol – which robs children of the opportunities for self-assertion and self-development.

Quote 92 – Narcissistic Family System 5

You are expected to act like a parent to your parent(s).  Rather than having your parent(s) care for you.  You lose love, approval and privileges.