Don’t know if it’s common or not, but I do find some of the people feel trapped in toxic relationship, not because they love that person but scare of leaving the comfort zone.
This is true that as long as we get used to the environment, we feel it’s more safe and secure to stay in the same old situation, even though it hurts, rather than jump the cliff to explore another chance.
It’s scary, i knew it.
What do you think? Are you one of them? or you know someone like this?
Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you didn’t belong.
Can’t recall the name but many years ago read a memoir about a boy who was seriously abused in his childhood, end up he has different personalities, this is an extreme case.
But very often we heard people who was abused in childhood may forget all things happened completely. They can’t remember a person / incident etc.
Not because they lost memories but simply the trauma was so severe so they just dissociated from the reality in order to survive.
In some cases, they suddenly remember everything and all flashbacks drive them crazy because the truth is too pain to accept.
You heard any stories like this?
Some parents are completely undeserving of their child’s love. It’s not automatic. As in any kinds of relationship. It must be earned.
You find trusting relationships difficult – if parents, who are meant to be our main caregivers are deficient or can’t give us real support, we will find difficult to create supportive attachments when we grow up, or believe they are going last.
Parent asking the child to be their parent, and to fix and support them.
A narcissist will put the child down to make them feel inferior and worthless so that they struggle to maintain level of confidence needed to exist independently.
Parents actively resist you showing autonomy and becoming an independently entity.
The Scapegoat – the one who refuse to stay silent in unbearable atmosphere created in family.
Scapegoats hold on to destructive relationship by forgetting the abuse and focusing on the fantasy.