Your accomplishments are ignored, minimized or even criticized. Unless your talents make the narcissist look good.
The scapegoat is likely develop feelings of intense psychological distress, perform well below his / her best academically and later, encounter serious problems with social interaction.
Grooming is a tactic utilized by abusers, who target and manipulate vulnerable people.
Difficulty making and keeping relationships.
Pressure on you to make narcissistic family look good to outsiders. Rejection or abandonment if you do not.
Abuser may say something very upsetting to the victim and after seeing her reaction add, “it was just a joke”.
Abuse is not OK in any form. Jokes that hurt are abusive.
Having and overwhelming need for external validation.
In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s the talking about them that is forbidden.
Doubting your self-worth, believing you are bad or defective.
In narcissistic family system, poor family boundaries are norm. Intrusiveness, mistreatment, abuse is normalized.