Psychology # 51 : Passive Agression

 

 

It’s kind of difficult to deal with this type of attitudes.

 

We never easy to catch if that person is really understand or willing to follow through the commitment or not.

 

You have experience to deal with this kind of situation?  Or this is actually your way of handling stress / conflict?

 

Psychology # 50 : Control Me Syndrome

Don’t know if it’s common or not, but I do find some of the people feel trapped in toxic relationship, not because they love that person but scare of leaving the comfort zone.

 

This is true that as long as we get used to the environment, we feel it’s more safe and secure to stay in the same old situation, even though it hurts, rather than jump the cliff to explore another chance.

 

It’s scary, i knew it.

 

What do you think? Are you one of them? or you know someone like this?

Psychology # 49 : Repression

 

 

We should pay attention of children’s dreams, since they are not mature enough to express their feelings / thoughts but through their descriptions of dreams, we will get some ideas about their fear / concerns and stories that never told us.

 

Or sometimes I encountered people who claim they are “Morale” while keep on throwing dirty jokes, this actually indicate their repressed sexual desire at certain level.  I came across this situation several times and they are all female.

 

We never can trust what someone say in surface, a slip of tongue may express more about their hidden desire / value.  Watch out!

 

What do you think?

Psychology # 48 : Inner Child

 

 

Effects of Childhood Trauma is unpredictable and can destroy individual over lifespan.

 

Many adult survivor still controlled by their inner child no matter what age they reach.  They may react to situation like a child even though they physically matured enough to handle the situation.

 

Personally, this is one of the weakness I’m still working on it.  Sometimes I just lead by my inner child emotion and forget I’m an adult and capable to own my life now.

 

How about You? Do you have an inner child within?

Psychology # 47 : Dissociation

 

 

Can’t recall the name but many years ago read a memoir about a boy who was seriously abused in his childhood, end up he has different personalities, this is an extreme case.

 

But very often we heard people who was abused in childhood may forget all things happened completely. They can’t remember a person / incident etc.

 

Not because they lost memories but simply the trauma was so severe so they just dissociated from the reality in order to survive.

 

In some cases, they suddenly remember everything and all flashbacks drive them crazy because the truth is too pain to accept.

 

You heard any stories like this?

Psychology # 46 : Smear Campaigns

 

 

You may encounter this psychological attributes from time to time.

 

If you are involved in any abusive / toxic relationships, then it becomes a pattern of how abusers treat their victims.

 

In dysfunctional family, abusive parents will verbally / psychological or emotional abuse their child, then tell lies to outsiders : saying how bad their children are so outsiders will trust what they heard.

 

You spot this symptoms in any situation?

 

 

Psychology # 45 : Undoing

 

 

Emotional Abusers may use this tactic often, you were insulted, humiliated or verbally abused, next moment they will praise / adore you.

 

This not only confused the victims but also explain quite a bit why victims chose to stay in an unhealthy relationship.

 

Abusers give an impression to victims that they don’t meant to hurt them, and at the end they still love the victims.

 

What do you think?  Have you ever experienced this?

 

 

 

Psychology # 44 : The Mascot (Clown)

 

 

You noticed any child acting like this?

 

Even in workplace, I worked with people who always laugh for silly jokes or minor / non-sense things.

 

At surface, they seem happy for live and optimistic for everything, but I just knew they are masking their insecure / shame and guilty by fake happiness.

 

That’s why we heard stories from time to time, mentioning this or that person seems happy all times but how come they commit suicide or doing horrible things to others suddenly.

 

 

What do you think? You met someone like this?

Psychology # 43 : Dismissive – Avoidant

 

 

For many abuse survivors, the urge to have love / attention is so severe, since this is what they are lack of when they grew up in dysfunctional family.

 

This can lead to another cycle of trauma if we are not be careful of our relationship pattern.

 

From time to time I met people who jump from this to that relationship non-stop, they seem enjoy very much for the FAKE attention, but seldom see they are deeply connected to anyone.

 

At the end of the day, they are staring at the wall alone and die empty inside. It’s sad.

 

You know someone owns this attribute? How do you feel about their inner conflicts?

Psychology # 42 : Acting Out

 

 

This is common to be found in little child, but in fact it happens in adult too.

 

There are adults who always throw temper, act out or outraged for little things, sometimes it’s not about the situation / things happens, instead something bothering them within.

 

If you never deal with your inner self, you will have problems to deal with outside stuffs.

 

Don’t you agree? Are you acting out? or you know someone who always acting out?