Don’t know if it’s common or not, but I do find some of the people feel trapped in toxic relationship, not because they love that person but scare of leaving the comfort zone.
This is true that as long as we get used to the environment, we feel it’s more safe and secure to stay in the same old situation, even though it hurts, rather than jump the cliff to explore another chance.
It’s scary, i knew it.
What do you think? Are you one of them? or you know someone like this?
Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you didn’t belong.
You’ll not be the same after the storms of life. You’ll be stronger, wiser and more alive than ever before.
Intellectual boundaries are violated when someone dismisses or belittles your thoughts or ideas.
Emotional Abusers may use this tactic often, you were insulted, humiliated or verbally abused, next moment they will praise / adore you.
This not only confused the victims but also explain quite a bit why victims chose to stay in an unhealthy relationship.
Abusers give an impression to victims that they don’t meant to hurt them, and at the end they still love the victims.
What do you think? Have you ever experienced this?
Pain can either destroy you or make you stronger
Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.
For many abuse survivors, the urge to have love / attention is so severe, since this is what they are lack of when they grew up in dysfunctional family.
This can lead to another cycle of trauma if we are not be careful of our relationship pattern.
From time to time I met people who jump from this to that relationship non-stop, they seem enjoy very much for the FAKE attention, but seldom see they are deeply connected to anyone.
At the end of the day, they are staring at the wall alone and die empty inside. It’s sad.
You know someone owns this attribute? How do you feel about their inner conflicts?