In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s the talking about them that is forbidden.
Doubting your self-worth, believing you are bad or defective.
In narcissistic family system, poor family boundaries are norm. Intrusiveness, mistreatment, abuse is normalized.
If the scapegoat becomes too insistent about expressing his / her point of view.
The rest of the family may cut him / her off from it entirely, thus totally isolating him / her.
Child of a narcissist exists solely to be of benefit to their parent.
Narcissist see their children as an extension of themselves.
Inappropriate control – parents exercise overcontrol – which robs children of the opportunities for self-assertion and self-development.
You are expected to act like a parent to your parent(s). Rather than having your parent(s) care for you. You lose love, approval and privileges.
The scapegoat is blame for family’s problem, the rest of its members are stay in denial to their own contribution to this affairs.
Family is anyone who loves you unconditionally.
Isolating – parent keep the child away from family, friends and peers, punish child for engaging in normal activities.