Psychology # 61 : Reaction Formation

We human afraid of being rejected or any uncomfortable feelings.

 

In order to save face and pretend nothing is happen, to protect our self-ego, we may act like nothing is happening and everything is fine.

 

That’s sad because if we don’t admit there’s a problem, we can never heal.

 

Do you recognize this symptoms from anyone you know?

Psychology # 54 : Closed Handed Family

This is very different from the “closed family”.

 

Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way.  They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.

 

I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together.  The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.

 

What do you think?

Psychology # 52 : Enmeshed Family

A healthy family is one that cherish individuality.  You gained support while manage to develop your own self identity.

 

In unhealthy / dysfunctional family, the boundaries are violated and everyone is so enmeshed together emotionally.

 

This structure will destroy child development, his / her individuality which end up ruin his / her relationship with others when they step into adulthood or have their own families.

 

How’s your family system and how it affect you?