It’s kind of difficult to deal with this type of attitudes.
We never easy to catch if that person is really understand or willing to follow through the commitment or not.
You have experience to deal with this kind of situation? Or this is actually your way of handling stress / conflict?
When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry. That’s when you know you’ve healed.
A child who has been abused or traumatized, the adult survivor experience feelings of low self-worth or poor self-confidence.
Effects of Childhood Trauma is unpredictable and can destroy individual over lifespan.
Many adult survivor still controlled by their inner child no matter what age they reach. They may react to situation like a child even though they physically matured enough to handle the situation.
Personally, this is one of the weakness I’m still working on it. Sometimes I just lead by my inner child emotion and forget I’m an adult and capable to own my life now.
How about You? Do you have an inner child within?
Can’t recall the name but many years ago read a memoir about a boy who was seriously abused in his childhood, end up he has different personalities, this is an extreme case.
But very often we heard people who was abused in childhood may forget all things happened completely. They can’t remember a person / incident etc.
Not because they lost memories but simply the trauma was so severe so they just dissociated from the reality in order to survive.
In some cases, they suddenly remember everything and all flashbacks drive them crazy because the truth is too pain to accept.
You heard any stories like this?
Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.
Nothing is permanent in this world, not even our troubles. – Charlie Chaplin
Are you in troubles now?
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Are you laughing enough?
When I was depressed I didn’t realize my outer appearance, but today when I look around and find somebody looks sad, I feel sad too because I can resonate those sad memories at my own.
When days go well, I am more conscious to push myself smile more. Sometimes I don’t smile is not because I’m unhappy, but simply get used to the same “COLD” face as this is how I protect myself from the environment.
How about you? Anything make you laugh or smile today?
I used to cried a lot, so confused, frustrated and lived in foggy days.
The more self-education I gained, the more strength and clarity I got about my situation.
Today, I no longer spent as much as time like before: feeling depressed or sorry for myself, though still feel frustrated from time to time but it’s more controllable.
How about you? How you deal with your past?
Toxic individuals constantly force children to suppress their own feelings in order to appease their parents.