Quote 180 – Psychological harm to abused child 1

Doubting your self-worth, believing you are bad or defective.


Quote 122 – Dysfunctional Family Scapegoat (1)

Motivation of the rest of the dysfunctional family for degrading and demeaning the scapegoat.

Psychology # 61 : Reaction Formation

We human afraid of being rejected or any uncomfortable feelings.


In order to save face and pretend nothing is happen, to protect our self-ego, we may act like nothing is happening and everything is fine.


That’s sad because if we don’t admit there’s a problem, we can never heal.


Do you recognize this symptoms from anyone you know?

Psychology # 54 : Closed Handed Family

This is very different from the “closed family”.


Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way.  They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.


I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together.  The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.


What do you think?

Psychology # 52 : Enmeshed Family

A healthy family is one that cherish individuality.  You gained support while manage to develop your own self identity.


In unhealthy / dysfunctional family, the boundaries are violated and everyone is so enmeshed together emotionally.


This structure will destroy child development, his / her individuality which end up ruin his / her relationship with others when they step into adulthood or have their own families.


How’s your family system and how it affect you?



Quote 188 – Signs You Grew Up With A Toxic Parent 2

Unhealthy view of relationships – if a parent who exploded, constantly overcritical, vanished or demanded perfection, we don’t have a healthy view of real, caring relationships.