Your accomplishments are ignored, minimized or even criticized. Unless your talents make the narcissist look good.
Difficulty making and keeping relationships.
Abuser may say something very upsetting to the victim and after seeing her reaction add, “it was just a joke”.
Abuse is not OK in any form. Jokes that hurt are abusive.
By blaming the scapegoat for the family’s difficulties, they evade their own responsibility.
You are not allowed to be yourself. Not allowed to have your own needs, personality and independence.
They liked to present a perfect family image to outsiders.
Never wrong. Even when they made a mistake or treated you in an unfair way, they never apologized for their mistakes.
Narcissist have complete control over their child and will feel resentful, jealous if the child wants to break free from their clutches and create a life of their own.
Adult children of toxic parents often don’t really acknowledge that their parents did anything wrong, until therapy.
Put your own emotional needs last – grew up with a verbally, physically abusive parent, or a manipulative one, your own emotional life will always come last in the hierarchy of household.