In toxic family, when targeted child speaks up or confront the abuse, other family members will join together to attack the abused child, protect narcissistic parent blindly and pretend everything is fine.
When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry. That’s when you know you’ve healed.
We should pay attention of children’s dreams, since they are not mature enough to express their feelings / thoughts but through their descriptions of dreams, we will get some ideas about their fear / concerns and stories that never told us.
Or sometimes I encountered people who claim they are “Morale” while keep on throwing dirty jokes, this actually indicate their repressed sexual desire at certain level. I came across this situation several times and they are all female.
We never can trust what someone say in surface, a slip of tongue may express more about their hidden desire / value. Watch out!
What do you think?
Effects of Childhood Trauma is unpredictable and can destroy individual over lifespan.
Many adult survivor still controlled by their inner child no matter what age they reach. They may react to situation like a child even though they physically matured enough to handle the situation.
Personally, this is one of the weakness I’m still working on it. Sometimes I just lead by my inner child emotion and forget I’m an adult and capable to own my life now.
How about You? Do you have an inner child within?
Can’t recall the name but many years ago read a memoir about a boy who was seriously abused in his childhood, end up he has different personalities, this is an extreme case.
But very often we heard people who was abused in childhood may forget all things happened completely. They can’t remember a person / incident etc.
Not because they lost memories but simply the trauma was so severe so they just dissociated from the reality in order to survive.
In some cases, they suddenly remember everything and all flashbacks drive them crazy because the truth is too pain to accept.
You heard any stories like this?
You find trusting relationships difficult – if parents, who are meant to be our main caregivers are deficient or can’t give us real support, we will find difficult to create supportive attachments when we grow up, or believe they are going last.
You noticed any child acting like this?
Even in workplace, I worked with people who always laugh for silly jokes or minor / non-sense things.
At surface, they seem happy for live and optimistic for everything, but I just knew they are masking their insecure / shame and guilty by fake happiness.
That’s why we heard stories from time to time, mentioning this or that person seems happy all times but how come they commit suicide or doing horrible things to others suddenly.
What do you think? You met someone like this?
Parents abuse child verbally, physically and sexually.
Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as family.
Family is not always as warm as people think but it’s a taboo to discuss about. Everything behind doors are secret.
Do you have a lovely family?
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