In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s the talking about them that is forbidden.
In narcissistic family system, poor family boundaries are norm. Intrusiveness, mistreatment, abuse is normalized.
Child of a narcissist exists solely to be of benefit to their parent.
Narcissist see their children as an extension of themselves.
The scapegoat is blame for family’s problem, the rest of its members are stay in denial to their own contribution to this affairs.
Family members may align with the narcissist. These narcissist supporters can be the other parent, sibling or extended family.
Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
They liked to present a perfect family image to outsiders.
Only the weakest takes advantage of a child’s innocent.
In toxic family, when targeted child speaks up or confront the abuse, other family members will join together to attack the abused child, protect narcissistic parent blindly and pretend everything is fine.
When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry. That’s when you know you’ve healed.