Ongoing scapegoating, criticism, attacks, blaming, shaming or shunning are used as a threat or weapon by the narcissist and their allies, if they don’t get their way.
If the scapegoat becomes too insistent about expressing his / her point of view.
The rest of the family may cut him / her off from it entirely, thus totally isolating him / her.
Children of toxic parents could have PhDs in justifying why their parents treated them so badly.
You find trusting relationships difficult – if parents, who are meant to be our main caregivers are deficient or can’t give us real support, we will find difficult to create supportive attachments when we grow up, or believe they are going last.
A narcissist will put the child down to make them feel inferior and worthless so that they struggle to maintain level of confidence needed to exist independently.
You noticed any child acting like this?
Even in workplace, I worked with people who always laugh for silly jokes or minor / non-sense things.
At surface, they seem happy for live and optimistic for everything, but I just knew they are masking their insecure / shame and guilty by fake happiness.
That’s why we heard stories from time to time, mentioning this or that person seems happy all times but how come they commit suicide or doing horrible things to others suddenly.
What do you think? You met someone like this?
That’s why people say the person who anger with you is not really related to what you do sometimes.
It’s probably they had a bad day or going through some struggles in life that they can’t deal with.
So are you always use “displacement” to escape from your troubles?
The scapegoat – typically the child often described as imitating, deceitful, hostile and disobedient.
There are families that always focus on a specific child, claiming that he / she is the root of all problems in family.
Do you recognize one in your circle of friends? Or sadly you actually one of these scapegoat? What’s your opinion?
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What happened is done.
Don’t let the darkness of your past block the light of joy in your present.
– Karen Salmansohn
Move on, take back control of your life. Don’t let your past trapped you in a cage.
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