If the scapegoat becomes too insistent about expressing his / her point of view.
The rest of the family may cut him / her off from it entirely, thus totally isolating him / her.
Terrorizing – parents threaten the child verbally, yell, scream, or curse, swing from rage to warmth to rage.
They liked to present a perfect family image to outsiders.
Never wrong. Even when they made a mistake or treated you in an unfair way, they never apologized for their mistakes.
This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.
According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.
Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person. Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.
And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.
In scapegoating, one of the authority figures made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy.
A healthy family is one that cherish individuality. You gained support while manage to develop your own self identity.
In unhealthy / dysfunctional family, the boundaries are violated and everyone is so enmeshed together emotionally.
This structure will destroy child development, his / her individuality which end up ruin his / her relationship with others when they step into adulthood or have their own families.
How’s your family system and how it affect you?
Lead to self-sabotage, destructive relationship behavior, neediness, or a variety of other attachment problems.
You noticed any child acting like this?
Even in workplace, I worked with people who always laugh for silly jokes or minor / non-sense things.
At surface, they seem happy for live and optimistic for everything, but I just knew they are masking their insecure / shame and guilty by fake happiness.
That’s why we heard stories from time to time, mentioning this or that person seems happy all times but how come they commit suicide or doing horrible things to others suddenly.
What do you think? You met someone like this?