You’re scapegoated and labeled as self-centered for having your own wishes, interests, and face punishment if you pursue them.
Motivation of the rest of the dysfunctional family for degrading and demeaning the scapegoat.
Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.
In toxic family, when targeted child speaks up or confront the abuse, other family members will join together to attack the abused child, protect narcissistic parent blindly and pretend everything is fine.
This explains why some of the victims stay with their abusers.
When we were abused, we need to adjust our mindset, attitude and behaviors in order to survive in the toxic environment.
Sooner or later, we forget who we are or what we are capable of, which ends up may become support to abusers.
That’s sad and tragic. Abuse is a complicated issue and difficult to be explained straight forward.
What do you think? do you believe victims will be brainwashed and become obedient to the abusers after a long history of abuse?
I found not too many people understand the importance of psychological boundaries.
Especially for those who were abused for a long time, they lost the identity and fear of missing out or abandonment. This make them very valuable, either let others step over their boundaries and being controlled by others’ desire and need.
Or they become very controlling and want to step in other business. Always want to check and spy on their love ones, sadly, this unhealthy clinging scare people away.
How about you? Do you protect your psychological boundaries? Or let others violate according to their needs?