Psychology # 50 : Control Me Syndrome

Don’t know if it’s common or not, but I do find some of the people feel trapped in toxic relationship, not because they love that person but scare of leaving the comfort zone.

 

This is true that as long as we get used to the environment, we feel it’s more safe and secure to stay in the same old situation, even though it hurts, rather than jump the cliff to explore another chance.

 

It’s scary, i knew it.

 

What do you think? Are you one of them? or you know someone like this?

Psychology # 49 : Repression

 

 

We should pay attention of children’s dreams, since they are not mature enough to express their feelings / thoughts but through their descriptions of dreams, we will get some ideas about their fear / concerns and stories that never told us.

 

Or sometimes I encountered people who claim they are “Morale” while keep on throwing dirty jokes, this actually indicate their repressed sexual desire at certain level.  I came across this situation several times and they are all female.

 

We never can trust what someone say in surface, a slip of tongue may express more about their hidden desire / value.  Watch out!

 

What do you think?

Psychology # 47 : Dissociation

 

 

Can’t recall the name but many years ago read a memoir about a boy who was seriously abused in his childhood, end up he has different personalities, this is an extreme case.

 

But very often we heard people who was abused in childhood may forget all things happened completely. They can’t remember a person / incident etc.

 

Not because they lost memories but simply the trauma was so severe so they just dissociated from the reality in order to survive.

 

In some cases, they suddenly remember everything and all flashbacks drive them crazy because the truth is too pain to accept.

 

You heard any stories like this?

Psychology # 46 : Smear Campaigns

 

 

You may encounter this psychological attributes from time to time.

 

If you are involved in any abusive / toxic relationships, then it becomes a pattern of how abusers treat their victims.

 

In dysfunctional family, abusive parents will verbally / psychological or emotional abuse their child, then tell lies to outsiders : saying how bad their children are so outsiders will trust what they heard.

 

You spot this symptoms in any situation?

 

 

Psychology # 45 : Undoing

 

 

Emotional Abusers may use this tactic often, you were insulted, humiliated or verbally abused, next moment they will praise / adore you.

 

This not only confused the victims but also explain quite a bit why victims chose to stay in an unhealthy relationship.

 

Abusers give an impression to victims that they don’t meant to hurt them, and at the end they still love the victims.

 

What do you think?  Have you ever experienced this?

 

 

 

Quote 50 : Hurt people Hurt people

 

 

The older I get the more I understand this theory, people who hurt others are actually the most unhappiest person.

 

Something happened in their lives that they can’t or not willing to deal with, instead, they project their problems / frustration / anger on others.

 

But it doesn’t mean their behaviors are acceptable. I believe we all are human so have the power to chose what we suppose to do.

 

How do you think about this?

 

Please comment or share this to someone you think they are going through difficult relationship right now.