Quote 177 – Family dysfunctional system

Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down.

Psychology # 54 : Closed Handed Family

This is very different from the “closed family”.

 

Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way.  They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.

 

I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together.  The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.

 

What do you think?

Quote 192 – Signs You Grew Up With A Toxic Parent 6

Feel out of touch with your real self.  Many children of toxic parents find it exceptionally difficult to identify who they are once they grow up.

Quote 188 – Signs You Grew Up With A Toxic Parent 2

Unhealthy view of relationships – if a parent who exploded, constantly overcritical, vanished or demanded perfection, we don’t have a healthy view of real, caring relationships.

Quote # 44 : Toxic Parents

Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to thoughts and actions of toxic parents.

-Susan Forward

 

Typical characteristic of dysfunctional family.  Contrary to healthy family which allow every individual own their desires and speak their own voices.

 

Which type of family are you belong to?

 

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Quote # 42 : Poisonous family

Some of the most poisonous people come disguised as family.

 

Family is not always as warm as people think but it’s a taboo to discuss about.  Everything behind doors are secret.

Do you have a lovely family?

 

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Quote # 40 : Unsafe Home

A house where a child is unsafe is not a home

 

Child need to be nurtured and developed in an environment that is safe and healthy.

 

What do you do to make sure your environment is good for kids to explore and develop into a healthy human?

 

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Psychology # 28 : Displacement

 

That’s why people say the person who anger with you is not really related to what you do sometimes.

 

It’s probably they had a bad day or going through some struggles in life that they can’t deal with.

 

So are you always use “displacement” to escape from your troubles?

Psychology # 24 : Golden Child (Hero)

 

 

In any dysfunctional family, if there’s a scapegoat, there will be a golden child.

 

When I was young, I was not understand / confused, how come my younger sister can do whatever she liked, go to school, enjoy after school activities without caring much about household or all the chaos in family.

 

Nobody will scold her for mistakes but I was the one who take all the blames.

 

It’s sad and miserable to grow up in such environment.  Not only affect my own well-being but it damaged sibling relationships seriously. Never have close sibling relationships as many times it reminds me those betrays / laughs / gossips.

 

How about you? Are you the golden child and how you feel about this privilege?

Psychology # 23 : Triangulation

 

 

When I was young, I didn’t know what exactly going on in the dysfunctional family.

 

But somehow I just feel it’s not what it supposed to be.  The family roles are so distorted and confused.  My parents like child and me, as a kid like a parent.

 

Not only responsible for many housework, but also my parents’ emotional support.  I hate this but I was too young to figure things out and stand up for myself.

 

Nowadays, whenever I heard someone say their kids are as like as their friends / buddies. This make me feel uncomfortable because kids are kids, they are not suppose to be your friends, this is a psychological abuse because child is not yet developed (mentally) to listen your struggles, such as marriage problems, emotional issues.

 

Please, let kids be kids.