The scapegoat will come to internalize, i.e. believe to be true, his / her family’s view of him / her.
In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s the talking about them that is forbidden.
Isolating – parent keep the child away from family, friends and peers, punish child for engaging in normal activities.
Child of a narcissist likely struggle with : self-loathing, trust issues, anxiety or depression.
This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.
According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.
Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person. Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.
And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.
In scapegoating, one of the authority figures made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy.
Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down.
This is very different from the “closed family”.
Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way. They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.
I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together. The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.
What do you think?