Quote 96 – Narcissistic Family System 9

Your accomplishments are ignored, minimized or even criticized.  Unless your talents make the narcissist look good.

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Quote 95 – Narcissistic Family System 8

Pressure on you to make narcissistic family look good to outsiders.  Rejection or abandonment if you do not.

Quote 179 – Toxic family members

In toxic family, when targeted child speaks up or confront the abuse, other family members will join together to attack the abused child, protect narcissistic parent blindly and pretend everything is fine.

Quote 192 – Signs You Grew Up With A Toxic Parent 6

Feel out of touch with your real self.  Many children of toxic parents find it exceptionally difficult to identify who they are once they grow up.

Psychology # 19 – Guilt Trip

 

 

 

I know this term very well, and guess it’s very familiar to abused survivor.

 

In toxic / abusive family, family members love to use this skill to trap the victims.  Reasons why many survivors struggling a lot in healing because they are not only dealing with the abuse, but also the guilt and shame within.

 

As a human, we born to feel guilty for doing bad things, or treat others badly especially if they are our blood-related family members.  We were raged for the abuse but at the same time abusers will use “guilt” to fool us, lead us to think this is our fault for not forgiving or “moving on” etc.

 

That’s why it’s takes lots of time and energy for any healing journey.