You’re scapegoated and labeled as self-centered for having your own wishes, interests, and face punishment if you pursue them.
This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.
According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.
Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person. Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.
And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.
Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down.
Survivors of family scapegoating must learn to trust their feelings and perceptions.
Parent asking the child to be their parent, and to fix and support them.
The Scapegoat – the one who refuse to stay silent in unbearable atmosphere created in family.
Scapegoat can be attracted to people who repeatedly neglect, abuse or victimize them, which bolsters shame and self-blame.
It took me years to understand the term of “scapegoating”, the more I gain the knowledge, the more anger / frustration I got.
Wish I can understand this term when I was young, it can definitely save me lots of energy / time towards healing journey.
Hope less people will be trapped like me for so long.