In healthy families, we encourage our children to be loving and close to each other.
In narcissistic families, children are pitted against each other & taught competition.
“Scapegoat” children grabs their swords, shields and do battle against things that are “wrong” in the families.
Hope you are not one of the “scapegoat” child in the dysfunctional family. But if you are, then you are the warrior!
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Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Sometimes, however, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
Every time when I read news about child abuse at family, this hurts and made me sad.
Family is suppose the most safety place for naive child. How come?
How about your family? Is it make you heartache? or make you feel warm and safe always?
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Feed Your Mind #1
Started this series, I know how difficult it is to survive and act normal after years of abuse. Our soul, spirits, self-esteem / self-confidence are all shattered to pieces on floor.
Of course it’s essential to educate public and break silence, many years ago people don’t feel alright to discuss AIDS, Homosexual etc. But the more we share and discuss, taboos will soon become normal to be addressed.
But at the same time since we, adult survivors don’t have good model to guide us : what’s right and good for us, I strongly feel self-education is essential during the healing journey, please try to search and learn from as many as mentors you can locate, either from immediate environment (quite difficult for many of us because we tend to stay an arm distance from crowd to protect ourselves) or internet.
At the end, we can’t keep on complaining, feel sorry for our past and depressed all times, we got to be strong, stand up tall and pick up the brains from others, in order to fight for lives that we dream of.
Watched below interesting video, the author really caught my attention because he seems understand very much about relationships, especially for those who were abused from childhood or suffered from trauma.
Pin point relationship issues that we adult survivors go through in adult relationships and how we react to environment / surrounding people.
If you don’t understand or want to let others know how it feels as an adult survivor, this is a good video to share. And if you are a survivor, it might enlighten your perspective.
Haven’t read the book yet (by Neil Strauss) but this short 11 minutes video already spoke our minds. I felt connected to what he mentioned. It’s hard to someone who know how you actually feel or struggles you going through.
Enjoy and let me know how you feel about his thoughts.