In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted. It’s the talking about them that is forbidden.
Family is anyone who loves you unconditionally.
Isolating – parent keep the child away from family, friends and peers, punish child for engaging in normal activities.
The scapegoat finds him / herself not only rejected by his / her own immediate family. But possibly by those outside it too.
Motivation of the rest of the dysfunctional family for degrading and demeaning the scapegoat.
In a dysfunctional family, parents are inadequate or abusive, not enough love available for children.
This sets up an unconscious competition between the children.
This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.
According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.
Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person. Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.
And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.
Many abuse survivor become “Adult Children” though they stop into adulthood. It’s kind of like an adult look outside but there’s a child live within.
I’m very conscious about this symptoms and try my best to heal my inner child. But from time to time I still struggle with destructive behavior and act like a child, emotionally and psychologically.
The healing journey is long but as long as we keep moving forward, we will be fine.
What do you think?
This is very different from the “closed family”.
Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way. They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.
I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together. The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.
What do you think?