After Abuse, victims may chose to lock themselves up, stay isolated from the crowd / society or engage in destructive behaviors.
That’s why the abuse is not only affect the moment of abuse, but most damaging is years after abused incident.
People simply underestimate the duration of healing journey.
Do you agree?
Trust is like a paper, once it’s crumpled it can’t be perfect.
Don’t ruin your trust with others. Once it’s damaged, we can hardly amend it.
That’s why we have to watch our mouth, words and behaviors constantly. What do you think?
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This defense mechanism can be found in many situation.
That’s why when we found someone who’s throwing temper, yelling and screaming at others, most of the times it’s not about that situation / person, instead, something happen underneath that abuser.
Have you ever meet someone love to project their emotions / problems / frustrations to others?
How you handle this?
Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life, tip toe if you must but take the step.
Take small step every day, as long as you are moving forward, you will reach destination eventually. Bless you for your healing!
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Leave & thanks for all difficult people in your life, they show you exactly who you do not want to be.
This is exactly how I feel from time to time, their disgusting attitudes remind me strongly that I will never become this type of person.
What do you think?
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People who repeatedly attack your confidence and self esteem are well aware of your potential…..Even if you are not.
Remember there’s a saying “nobody will kick an un-barking dog”. Sometimes, the more a person attack you is a sign that he / she is envy of what you have.
They need to attack your confidence, drag you down in order to make themselves look good or feel better.
Don’t you agree?
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Because of my insecure, I used to surround myself with toxic or people that do nothing good to me.
It happens commonly among abused survivors, we don’t know how to establish and nurture a healthy relationship.
Or many times because of our lack of confidence and low self-esteem issues, we tend to attract toxic people, who spot our weakness right away, which in turn drag our lives even further downward.
Today, though I am still struggling with relationship issues, but I am more alert to my surroundings.
How about you? You attract the right people to your live or you just accept anyone step into your life? Even though they are harm to you?
This seems a very difficult term, it came to my realization years ago when I read a nice book about “Dr. Jekyll & Mr Hyde” symptoms.
It opens my eyes and motivate me to learn more about this topic, which happens commonly among abusers / narcissists.
Many occasions, people shocked me when I found they act totally differently in public and behind doors. This make me feel more uncomfortable to deal with so-called charming person because I witness many lies behind.
How about you? have you ever meet this type of people?
Many people understand physical abuse, but many unaware verbal abuse can do the same damage to a human.
It says : physical wounds can be seen so it’s possible to heal, but those invisible scars carried from verbal abuse is invisible and can bring a huge effect during lifetime.
Watch our mouths is not simply a causal reminder but actually a big favor to others.