Psychology # 54 : Closed Handed Family

This is very different from the “closed family”.

 

Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way.  They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.

 

I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together.  The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.

 

What do you think?

Psychology # 52 : Enmeshed Family

A healthy family is one that cherish individuality.  You gained support while manage to develop your own self identity.

 

In unhealthy / dysfunctional family, the boundaries are violated and everyone is so enmeshed together emotionally.

 

This structure will destroy child development, his / her individuality which end up ruin his / her relationship with others when they step into adulthood or have their own families.

 

How’s your family system and how it affect you?

 

 

Quote 151 – Child of Narcissist

A narcissist will put the child down to make them feel inferior and worthless so that they struggle to maintain level of confidence needed to exist independently.

Quote 143 – Scapegoating abuse

Scapegoating is a form of systemic abuse where a family member is blamed for problem and dysfunction while family system as a whole.