Psychology # 49 : Repression

 

 

We should pay attention of children’s dreams, since they are not mature enough to express their feelings / thoughts but through their descriptions of dreams, we will get some ideas about their fear / concerns and stories that never told us.

 

Or sometimes I encountered people who claim they are “Morale” while keep on throwing dirty jokes, this actually indicate their repressed sexual desire at certain level.  I came across this situation several times and they are all female.

 

We never can trust what someone say in surface, a slip of tongue may express more about their hidden desire / value.  Watch out!

 

What do you think?

Psychology # 46 : Smear Campaigns

 

 

You may encounter this psychological attributes from time to time.

 

If you are involved in any abusive / toxic relationships, then it becomes a pattern of how abusers treat their victims.

 

In dysfunctional family, abusive parents will verbally / psychological or emotional abuse their child, then tell lies to outsiders : saying how bad their children are so outsiders will trust what they heard.

 

You spot this symptoms in any situation?

 

 

Psychology # 45 : Undoing

 

 

Emotional Abusers may use this tactic often, you were insulted, humiliated or verbally abused, next moment they will praise / adore you.

 

This not only confused the victims but also explain quite a bit why victims chose to stay in an unhealthy relationship.

 

Abusers give an impression to victims that they don’t meant to hurt them, and at the end they still love the victims.

 

What do you think?  Have you ever experienced this?

 

 

 

Quote 50 : Hurt people Hurt people

 

 

The older I get the more I understand this theory, people who hurt others are actually the most unhappiest person.

 

Something happened in their lives that they can’t or not willing to deal with, instead, they project their problems / frustration / anger on others.

 

But it doesn’t mean their behaviors are acceptable. I believe we all are human so have the power to chose what we suppose to do.

 

How do you think about this?

 

Please comment or share this to someone you think they are going through difficult relationship right now.

Quote 202- Parents In Dysfunctional Families 5

Parent control you to giving you expensive gifts then expect something in return.

Quote # 47 – Tears

 

 

I used to cried a lot, so confused, frustrated and lived in foggy days.

 

The more self-education I gained, the more strength and clarity I got about my situation.

 

Today, I no longer spent as much as time like before: feeling depressed or sorry for myself, though still feel frustrated from time to time but it’s more controllable.

 

 

How about you? How you deal with your past?

Quote 145 – Adult survivor of scapegoating

Scapegoated children and adults may suffer from chronic insecurity in relationships.

Quote 46 : No Excuse for Abuse

 

 

Society / public make excuses for abusers, such as : Oh he’s just stress out, Oh, he / she didn’t had a good childhood thus they are now abuse another generation.

 

Stop it! Shut Up! We all human have the power to make choice : to abuse or not to abuse.

 

All these crapping excuses are not helping but sugar coating the abuse.  Or protecting abusers to escape from their behaviors.

 

What do you think?

Psychology # 38 : True and False Self

 

 

Abusers may act different in public and behind doors.  This is the tactic they use to charm and lie to others.

 

Victims may have difficulties to explain their situations as it’s hard to find outsiders acknowledge the truth behind scenes.

 

At the same time, victims may also pretend as a happy person, living in a dream life but in fact they are suffering from abuse.

 

Are you good at spoting these lies?  Are you living 2 different lives?