Psychology # 21 : Favoritism

 

 

This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.

 

According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.

 

Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person.  Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.

 

And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.

Psychology # 45 : Undoing

 

 

Emotional Abusers may use this tactic often, you were insulted, humiliated or verbally abused, next moment they will praise / adore you.

 

This not only confused the victims but also explain quite a bit why victims chose to stay in an unhealthy relationship.

 

Abusers give an impression to victims that they don’t meant to hurt them, and at the end they still love the victims.

 

What do you think?  Have you ever experienced this?