Your inner voice is incredibly critical – children of toxic parents often have a severe deficit in self-esteem and self-worth.
People who fall into adult trauma bonds seek to the rescued from their painful childhood.
They crave validation from others in an attempt to escape the shame that defines them.
Intellectual boundaries are violated when someone dismisses or belittles your thoughts or ideas.
I was very confused why Narcissists can always escape from their abusive behavior while everyone adore him / her without notice their true personality.
Spent lots of time to research and understand the truth behind, finally a new term “narcissist supply”came up to me. Wow. Now I knew there’s a logic of demand and supply.
If there’s a narcissist, it must have someone to supply this to fill his / her ego. Otherwise, narcissist can’t exist without support.
My younger sister is typically the supplier for my abusive / narcissistic father. The more she supports him the more he feel comfortable to do whatever he wants, while keeping a nice guy image to the public.
What I found people who is willing to devote to narcissistic supply, usually is related to co-dependent characteristic. Narcissists bribe them with fake attention / love, they spot the supplier lack of confidence and self-esteem so take the advantage of them.
I used to jealous my sister’s privilege but not now. She’s very depressed, no friends and no jobs due to all the toxic relationship she built up with narcissist. She became resentful and dependent, cling to relationships.
It’s sad to watch and remind myself better work harder on my own self-improvement because I don’t want to follow her path.