Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you didn’t belong.
Like me, many of survivors tend to build up a wall and keep an arm distant from the crowd.
People might feel awkward for their behaviors, but I can speak from my own experience that we are not hating people, instead, many of us simply fear of intimacy or relationship that too close.
Because we afraid of losing or any potential damage from the investment of relationship.
It’s sad and unhealthy I know, but we just can’t help. The more you pull them out from the cave, the more they resist and desire to stay away from you.
Advice is : Take your time and give them some space, be authentic and generous for your approach, sooner or later, their heart will be melted as long as they find you really can be trust.