The scapegoat will come to internalize, i.e. believe to be true, his / her family’s view of him / her.
You are expected to act like a parent to your parent(s). Rather than having your parent(s) care for you. You lose love, approval and privileges.
Terrorizing – parents threaten the child verbally, yell, scream, or curse, swing from rage to warmth to rage.
Many of child abuse survivors still love their parents, and have been fed a constant narrative that they were the problem.
The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.
Your inner voice is incredibly critical – children of toxic parents often have a severe deficit in self-esteem and self-worth.
In healthy families, we encourage our children to be loving and close to each other.
In narcissistic families, children are pitted against each other & taught competition.
Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to thoughts and actions of toxic parents.
Typical characteristic of dysfunctional family. Contrary to healthy family which allow every individual own their desires and speak their own voices.
Which type of family are you belong to?
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