Family’s protection of their own feelings of guilt onto the scapegoat is a psychological defense mechanism.
Survivors of family scapegoating must learn to trust their feelings and perceptions.
Scapegoat can be attracted to people who repeatedly neglect, abuse or victimize them, which bolsters shame and self-blame.
This cognitive bias can be found in many situation, e.g. when we believe something at the first place, we will look for signs / evidence to prove our beliefs, even though it’s non-sense / urological.
That’s why it’s so important to evaluate our thoughts always because it may mislead our upcoming behaviors.
How about you? Do you have this kind of bias that distort your perspectives often?
Scapegoated children and adults may suffer from chronic insecurity in relationships.
Scapegoating is a form of systemic abuse where a family member is blamed for problem and dysfunction while family system as a whole.
The scapegoat – typically the child often described as imitating, deceitful, hostile and disobedient.
There are families that always focus on a specific child, claiming that he / she is the root of all problems in family.
Do you recognize one in your circle of friends? Or sadly you actually one of these scapegoat? What’s your opinion?
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“Scapegoat” children grabs their swords, shields and do battle against things that are “wrong” in the families.
Hope you are not one of the “scapegoat” child in the dysfunctional family. But if you are, then you are the warrior!
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Scapegoat is the truth teller,
who complaining problems and confronts parent
on the dysfunctional family situation.
Anyone who following my blog should understand I’m a scapegoat in dysfunctional family.
Years ago, I can hardly understand what’s the meaning of terms e.g. narcissistic, scapegoat and dysfunctional etc.
I just feel something wrong but my knowledge base was not well enough to figure out chaos / struggles in my life. Gladly I love to read / listen podcasts etc to put myself to unlearn and relearn many things.
Family / parents are always the taboos to discuss, people love to see shiny things or listen touching / lovely family stories. Because people don’t feel comfortable to disclose so more dirty secrets are hidden.
Are you the truth teller? Are you suffering for being honest to yourself? Please share your thoughts or this post so we help to raise public awareness.
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