This Quote described my situation at dysfunctional family very well.
According to my observation, it’s not only happen in family system, but also in everyday life, such as workplace.
Many times I observed colleagues / bosses will favorite a specific staff, in order to show his / her hate on another person. Body languages displayed that these targets people are no longer worthy in their eyes.
And if it happens in family, it can destroy self-esteem / self-worth of a child, which in turn will affect his / her all aspect of life.
Children are like wet cement, whatever falls on them will make an impression. Stop Child abuse.
Many abuse survivor become “Adult Children” though they stop into adulthood. It’s kind of like an adult look outside but there’s a child live within.
I’m very conscious about this symptoms and try my best to heal my inner child. But from time to time I still struggle with destructive behavior and act like a child, emotionally and psychologically.
The healing journey is long but as long as we keep moving forward, we will be fine.
What do you think?
You are not to blame for what happened to you as a child, but you can do something about it now!
It’s extremely tough went through all traumatic events as a child. But now as an adult, we can make changes according to our own wishes. Do you agree?
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A house where a child is unsafe is not a home
Child need to be nurtured and developed in an environment that is safe and healthy.
What do you do to make sure your environment is good for kids to explore and develop into a healthy human?
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Dysfunctional families have a number of pretty good actors.
– Gene Hackman
According to my personal experience, this is true that everyone is acting a specific role to maintain the so-called harmony of family system.
That’s why people say the person who anger with you is not really related to what you do sometimes.
It’s probably they had a bad day or going through some struggles in life that they can’t deal with.
So are you always use “displacement” to escape from your troubles?
In any dysfunctional family, if there’s a scapegoat, there will be a golden child.
When I was young, I was not understand / confused, how come my younger sister can do whatever she liked, go to school, enjoy after school activities without caring much about household or all the chaos in family.
Nobody will scold her for mistakes but I was the one who take all the blames.
It’s sad and miserable to grow up in such environment. Not only affect my own well-being but it damaged sibling relationships seriously. Never have close sibling relationships as many times it reminds me those betrays / laughs / gossips.
How about you? Are you the golden child and how you feel about this privilege?
“Scapegoat” children grabs their swords, shields and do battle against things that are “wrong” in the families.
Hope you are not one of the “scapegoat” child in the dysfunctional family. But if you are, then you are the warrior!
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It took me years to understand the term of “scapegoating”, the more I gain the knowledge, the more anger / frustration I got.
Wish I can understand this term when I was young, it can definitely save me lots of energy / time towards healing journey.
Hope less people will be trapped like me for so long.