Family’s protection of their own feelings of guilt onto the scapegoat is a psychological defense mechanism.
You are expected to act like a parent to your parent(s). Rather than having your parent(s) care for you. You lose love, approval and privileges.
Terrorizing – parents threaten the child verbally, yell, scream, or curse, swing from rage to warmth to rage.
Many of child abuse survivors still love their parents, and have been fed a constant narrative that they were the problem.
Your inner voice is incredibly critical – children of toxic parents often have a severe deficit in self-esteem and self-worth.
You take rejection and failure very hard. Children of toxic parents often have a terrifying reaction to anything that isn’t stellar success.
Lead to self-sabotage, destructive relationship behavior, neediness, or a variety of other attachment problems.
You find trusting relationships difficult – if parents, who are meant to be our main caregivers are deficient or can’t give us real support, we will find difficult to create supportive attachments when we grow up, or believe they are going last.
A house where a child is unsafe is not a home
Child need to be nurtured and developed in an environment that is safe and healthy.
What do you do to make sure your environment is good for kids to explore and develop into a healthy human?
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