Don’t know if it’s common or not, but I do find some of the people feel trapped in toxic relationship, not because they love that person but scare of leaving the comfort zone.
This is true that as long as we get used to the environment, we feel it’s more safe and secure to stay in the same old situation, even though it hurts, rather than jump the cliff to explore another chance.
It’s scary, i knew it.
What do you think? Are you one of them? or you know someone like this?
Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you didn’t belong.
You may encounter this psychological attributes from time to time.
If you are involved in any abusive / toxic relationships, then it becomes a pattern of how abusers treat their victims.
In dysfunctional family, abusive parents will verbally / psychological or emotional abuse their child, then tell lies to outsiders : saying how bad their children are so outsiders will trust what they heard.
You spot this symptoms in any situation?
Parents actively resist you showing autonomy and becoming an independently entity.
The older I get the more I understand this theory, people who hurt others are actually the most unhappiest person.
Something happened in their lives that they can’t or not willing to deal with, instead, they project their problems / frustration / anger on others.
But it doesn’t mean their behaviors are acceptable. I believe we all are human so have the power to chose what we suppose to do.
How do you think about this?
Please comment or share this to someone you think they are going through difficult relationship right now.
Abusers may act different in public and behind doors. This is the tactic they use to charm and lie to others.
Victims may have difficulties to explain their situations as it’s hard to find outsiders acknowledge the truth behind scenes.
At the same time, victims may also pretend as a happy person, living in a dream life but in fact they are suffering from abuse.
Are you good at spoting these lies? Are you living 2 different lives?
What other people think of us usually has very little to do with who we are.
It’s a lot more to do with that person’s own prejudices, fears & projections.
– Beverly Engel
The more I educated myself, the more I understand there’s nothing to do with myself, it’s how abusers think about themselves.
What do you think? Please leave comments below.
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Leave & thanks for all difficult people in your life, they show you exactly who you do not want to be.
This is exactly how I feel from time to time, their disgusting attitudes remind me strongly that I will never become this type of person.
What do you think?
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Truly evil people don’t just hurt others.
They take pride in the pain they cause and then blame their victims.
There are people who love to earn their happiness / self-esteem by making others feel bad / hurt.
Have you ever met this kind of person? How do you deal with it?
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