In scapegoating, one of the authority figures made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy.
Feel out of touch with your real self. Many children of toxic parents find it exceptionally difficult to identify who they are once they grow up.
Scapegoats hold on to destructive relationship by forgetting the abuse and focusing on the fantasy.
Parent control you to giving you expensive gifts then expect something in return.
When I was young, I didn’t know what exactly going on in the dysfunctional family.
But somehow I just feel it’s not what it supposed to be. The family roles are so distorted and confused. My parents like child and me, as a kid like a parent.
Not only responsible for many housework, but also my parents’ emotional support. I hate this but I was too young to figure things out and stand up for myself.
Nowadays, whenever I heard someone say their kids are as like as their friends / buddies. This make me feel uncomfortable because kids are kids, they are not suppose to be your friends, this is a psychological abuse because child is not yet developed (mentally) to listen your struggles, such as marriage problems, emotional issues.
Please, let kids be kids.
Dysfunctional family role :
The “lost” child fail through cracks almost disappearing, often described as quiet, shy, lonely and passive.
Sadly, the more this child get lost from the crowd, the less support can be received. End up, it can bring even more damage to their life.
Are you one of them? or do you know someone is belong to this dysfunctional family role?
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This is an extremely huge / hidden taboos in society. Seems many people understand what is it about…..but rarely feel uncomfortable to address, admit its existence.
I feel frustrated / annoyed and angry every time when I read news / stories about child sexual abuse cases.
Children are so naive and pure when they came to the world, unfortunately they met evils so their lives changed completely. It’s a tragedy!
How do you think about this topic? Please comment and share this post so we join hands to break the taboo, the more people educated in public and feel comfortable to address it, the more support and awareness we gain to protect next generation.
OK. Many people understand what it means for Incest, but rarely acknowledge the emotional incest.
This term came to my knowledge years ago and it’s interesting to find there are actually many emotional incest stories happened in dysfunctional / toxic / abusive family.
Since the parents not able to parent their kids or taking responsibilities of their parental role, many of them rely on their kids emotionally.
This is a typical taboo to discuss about because our society claim this is LOVE.
It’s not, kids are kids, if any adult treat a child / teenager like their same-age fellows that can share everything, their emotions, problems etc. this is actually an abuse behavior.
We are pulling the kids’ from their not-yet developed world up to adult’s level. This confuse and can bring lots of development issues, which end up will destroy a kid’s / teenager’s life.
Do you agree? How do you think on this topic?