When someone was being abused for longer period of time, they may believe or trapped by this way of thinking.
They may think there’s no hope and they can never turn the table upside down, in such, they behave passive, helpless and conform to the toxic relationship / abuse.
Other victims may fight back because their lives are controlled on their own hands, they make a choice to leave the toxic relationship / abuse, learn and motivated to strive.
There’s a saying ” if you think you can, you can; if you think you can’t you can’t, both are true!”
Which type are you?
This typical cognitive bias can be found in many abuse-victim relationships, or even how public perceive about victims.
e.g. if an victim was abused or raped, people will judge it’s because this girl / woman’s behavior is incorrect, seduce or being a sl*t or what and that’s why she was abused.
People tend not to consider external influence, such as the environment, security issues or even the behavior of abusers.
What do you think? Have you ever make a simple judgment on someone’s behavior quickly, instead of thinking about other circumstances?
Many abuse survivor become “Adult Children” though they stop into adulthood. It’s kind of like an adult look outside but there’s a child live within.
I’m very conscious about this symptoms and try my best to heal my inner child. But from time to time I still struggle with destructive behavior and act like a child, emotionally and psychologically.
The healing journey is long but as long as we keep moving forward, we will be fine.
What do you think?
It happens commonly in abuse survivors, but the longer we stay “unattached” to the truth, the more difficult we heal our wounds.
It’s not easy to face / confront our past but this is something MUST do in order to rich a fulfilling live.