Psychology # 24 : Golden Child

Psychology # 24 : Golden Child (Hero)

 

 

In any dysfunctional family, if there’s a scapegoat, there will be a golden child.

 

When I was young, I was not understand / confused, how come my younger sister can do whatever she liked, go to school, enjoy after school activities without caring much about household or all the chaos in family.

 

Nobody will scold her for mistakes but I was the one who take all the blames.

 

It’s sad and miserable to grow up in such environment.  Not only affect my own well-being but it damaged sibling relationships seriously. Never have close sibling relationships as many times it reminds me those betrays / laughs / gossips.

 

How about you? Are you the golden child and how you feel about this privilege?

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5 thoughts on “Psychology # 24 : Golden Child (Hero)”

  1. Well, I was the GC most of the time. I discovered this in therapy because unlike my sisters I am constantly depressed, feeling guilty and controlled (I am 35 years old). My family don’t know about all this yet and I’m still having trouble to acknowledge all this. I needed medical help because at some point I realized I was living a life that I didn’t choose and I didn’t know why. I was lost and blind and I just assumed that al the “privilleges” was due to the fact that I was the younger child. Its not all about privillege as some may think… This should not be about competing.

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    1. Thanks for your sharings, Rose. sorry to hear your struggles. Don’t mean all golden child are living in privleage. in your case, you are assigned to a role in dysfunctional family that harm your emotions and psychological wellbeings. I would say not only scapegoat, or golden child, any role in this kind of family is suffering. Hope you will healed soon and please don’t forget to join my FB page. There are many people like yours so you can get insights from each other. You are not alone. have a great day Rose

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  2. This post got me thinking. Why does one have to be a golden child or a scapegoat. Why do parents have to put their children in a category that they have to spend their lives overcoming and redefining!!!! It is so infuriating. I was the sick one. I got attention for being sick, as if I wanted or asked to be sick. So then my brother was then catered to and allowed to be able to still be able to ski with the man who abused me because heaven forbid my brother have to learn empathy or understanding of what happened to his sister. It is just all ridiculous. I’m sorry you went through it and had to deal with anything your parents inflicted.

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    1. same here, i am sorry for your past too. well, i used to think and rethink what happened to myself. what happened and why it’s so unfair. Today, the more i educated myself, the more i understand there’s nothing i can do as this is a common practice inside dysfunctional family. in healthy one, there’s no fixed role but in dysfunctional one, every child is assigned a fixed role and we are suppose to play this role for life. it’s sad though. thanks for your comment bethanyk

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