Quote 177 – Family dysfunctional system

Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down.

Quote 145 – Adult survivor of scapegoating

Scapegoated children and adults may suffer from chronic insecurity in relationships.

Quote of the day # 32 : Unbearable Atmosphere

The scapegoat is the child who refuses to look content or stay silent in the unbearable atmosphere created in the family.

– Glynis Sherwood

 

Sometimes the one who stand out is probably the one who notice the dysfunction.  Don’t you agree?

 

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Psychology # 24 : Golden Child (Hero)

 

 

In any dysfunctional family, if there’s a scapegoat, there will be a golden child.

 

When I was young, I was not understand / confused, how come my younger sister can do whatever she liked, go to school, enjoy after school activities without caring much about household or all the chaos in family.

 

Nobody will scold her for mistakes but I was the one who take all the blames.

 

It’s sad and miserable to grow up in such environment.  Not only affect my own well-being but it damaged sibling relationships seriously. Never have close sibling relationships as many times it reminds me those betrays / laughs / gossips.

 

How about you? Are you the golden child and how you feel about this privilege?

Psychology # 23 : Triangulation

 

 

When I was young, I didn’t know what exactly going on in the dysfunctional family.

 

But somehow I just feel it’s not what it supposed to be.  The family roles are so distorted and confused.  My parents like child and me, as a kid like a parent.

 

Not only responsible for many housework, but also my parents’ emotional support.  I hate this but I was too young to figure things out and stand up for myself.

 

Nowadays, whenever I heard someone say their kids are as like as their friends / buddies. This make me feel uncomfortable because kids are kids, they are not suppose to be your friends, this is a psychological abuse because child is not yet developed (mentally) to listen your struggles, such as marriage problems, emotional issues.

 

Please, let kids be kids.

Quote of the day # 25 : Unsafe family

Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Sometimes, however, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.

 

 

Every time when I read news about child abuse at family, this hurts and made me sad.

 

Family is suppose the most safety place for naive child.  How come?

 

How about your family? Is it make you heartache? or make you feel warm and safe always?

 

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Quote of the day # 21 : The Lost Child

Dysfunctional family role :

The “lost” child fail through cracks almost disappearing, often described as quiet, shy, lonely and passive.

 

 

Sadly, the more this child get lost from the crowd, the less support can be received.  End up, it can bring even more damage to their life.

 

 

Are you one of them? or do you know someone is belong to this dysfunctional family role?

 

 

 

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