Sabotaging – child abuser will sabotage a child’s calm and peace, ruins a child’s sense of security.
Never wrong. Even when they made a mistake or treated you in an unfair way, they never apologized for their mistakes.
This typical cognitive bias can be found in many abuse-victim relationships, or even how public perceive about victims.
e.g. if an victim was abused or raped, people will judge it’s because this girl / woman’s behavior is incorrect, seduce or being a sl*t or what and that’s why she was abused.
People tend not to consider external influence, such as the environment, security issues or even the behavior of abusers.
What do you think? Have you ever make a simple judgment on someone’s behavior quickly, instead of thinking about other circumstances?
Better walk away than to tolerate nonsense.
Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.
They never displayed any empathy.
They never asked about your feelings, sympathized with you, or cared.
We human afraid of being rejected or any uncomfortable feelings.
In order to save face and pretend nothing is happen, to protect our self-ego, we may act like nothing is happening and everything is fine.
That’s sad because if we don’t admit there’s a problem, we can never heal.
Do you recognize this symptoms from anyone you know?