Stop trying to win the favor of abusive and uncaring family members or friends.
Anyone who engages in this inappropriate behavior has personality problems, especially a parent who did not love their child.
Children of toxic parents could have PhDs in justifying why their parents treated them so badly.
This is very different from the “closed family”.
Closed Handed family is all members in the family is kind of tied together in a unhealthy way. They can’t grow emotionally and individuality is disappear in this type of family.
I cherish closed and supported family, but not the one that over-cling together. The more you love your child, the more you need to let them grow and have their own lives.
What do you think?
Narcissist have complete control over their child and will feel resentful, jealous if the child wants to break free from their clutches and create a life of their own.
When we used to get hurt, we don’t know how to react when others appreciate us.
End up we pushing people away.
Adult children of toxic parents often don’t really acknowledge that their parents did anything wrong, until therapy.
I found not too many people understand the importance of psychological boundaries.
Especially for those who were abused for a long time, they lost the identity and fear of missing out or abandonment. This make them very valuable, either let others step over their boundaries and being controlled by others’ desire and need.
Or they become very controlling and want to step in other business. Always want to check and spy on their love ones, sadly, this unhealthy clinging scare people away.
How about you? Do you protect your psychological boundaries? Or let others violate according to their needs?